A Man and A Woman - The Trilogy.
Unique couples programme for intimate partners
A dream you dream alone
is only a dream.
A dream you dream together
is reality
~ John Lennon
is only a dream.
A dream you dream together
is reality
~ John Lennon
Our intensive couple series consists of three parts, each part deepening and expanding the process. Couples need only commit to one module at the time. However, each part has to be attended in sequence. All courses are residential.
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Part One: Dancing in the Dark - from conflict to (com)passion. 13 -17 May 2013 Eden Roc Hotel, Girona, Spain. |
5-days intensive and enriching retreat for couples wanting to awaken their relationships to it's full potential.
Whenever we experience difference that we cannot accommodate, we will tend to polarise. When this polarisation happens within a couple, it upsets the dream of the stable marriage. The intimate partners are catapulted into an energetic field, where the individual’s sense of self feels threatened. It can start to seem like a toss-up between my life or this relationship.
The relationship may be in danger of not surviving as at this stage we frequently reason: “No man/woman is worth this hell - I’m off.“ Or if we are more timid, we keep the whole thing under wraps, and leave it to the next generation to sort out.
This intensive week presents a revolutionary new way at looking at intimate relationships between men and women. It offers a unique opportunity for partners to explore their particular relationship dynamics and discover how and why their intimate relationship is an unrivaled catalyst for personal and spiritual transformation.
Learning to love and be loved as adult men and women is not for the fainthearted. While this work is supportive to both partners and their relationship, it will challenge and stretch you - even if you have years of personal therapy and growth work behind you.
The courses are the best means we know of for supporting intimate partners in dealing with and understanding the challenging tasks of relationship.
Many participants have reported back to us that the experience has profoundly enriched and even transformed their lives together. Often the intensive introductory weekend is enough to create a real shift in outgrown patterns and open up the partners to a very different way of being together.
The relationship may be in danger of not surviving as at this stage we frequently reason: “No man/woman is worth this hell - I’m off.“ Or if we are more timid, we keep the whole thing under wraps, and leave it to the next generation to sort out.
This intensive week presents a revolutionary new way at looking at intimate relationships between men and women. It offers a unique opportunity for partners to explore their particular relationship dynamics and discover how and why their intimate relationship is an unrivaled catalyst for personal and spiritual transformation.
Learning to love and be loved as adult men and women is not for the fainthearted. While this work is supportive to both partners and their relationship, it will challenge and stretch you - even if you have years of personal therapy and growth work behind you.
The courses are the best means we know of for supporting intimate partners in dealing with and understanding the challenging tasks of relationship.
Many participants have reported back to us that the experience has profoundly enriched and even transformed their lives together. Often the intensive introductory weekend is enough to create a real shift in outgrown patterns and open up the partners to a very different way of being together.
What People Say:
We have been running these workshops since 1996. This is some of the things people say about our work
"Your work brings clarity to the male/female issue; it should be a requirement before anyone gets a divorce!"
"We've gained so much emotional healing and are blown away by the shift in our relationship."
"I have a new feeling of connectedness to men and an acceptance of the differences between us."
"Unlike some courses I have done, this was generally relaxed, never boring, nor too confrontative, but very powerful."
"I feel that I gained as much from the experiences of others as I did from my own experience."
"I wish I'd had the opportunity for such a growthful experience many years earlier."
"A transformative experience - alive, insightful and engaging. There were plenty of 'Ahh-ha!' moments, where I felt the truth of what was being said resonate in my body."
"Your work brings clarity to the male/female issue; it should be a requirement before anyone gets a divorce!"
"We've gained so much emotional healing and are blown away by the shift in our relationship."
"I have a new feeling of connectedness to men and an acceptance of the differences between us."
"Unlike some courses I have done, this was generally relaxed, never boring, nor too confrontative, but very powerful."
"I feel that I gained as much from the experiences of others as I did from my own experience."
"I wish I'd had the opportunity for such a growthful experience many years earlier."
"A transformative experience - alive, insightful and engaging. There were plenty of 'Ahh-ha!' moments, where I felt the truth of what was being said resonate in my body."
Sex, Love and the Dangers of Intimacy
Attending a group as a couple can seem like a daunting prospect. As if agreeing to seek support from a counsellor or therapist in the privacy of your own sessions isn’t challenging enough! We do appreciate if you are a little apprehensive. Women tend to be keener to begin with. However, the initial male reluctance very rarely last long.
The beauty of doing this in a group is that despite this extreme private and intimate experience, it somehow also is very normal, and quickly becomes very deep in a way that individual therapy simply cannot reach.
If you want to know more about where we come from and how we work, we suggest you get a copy of our book - Sex Love and The Dangers of Intimacy - A guide to Passionate Relationships when the 'honeymoon' is over"
Duffell & Løvendal, HarperCollins 2002.
10th Anniversary Edition out 14th September, Lone Arrow Press, 2012
The beauty of doing this in a group is that despite this extreme private and intimate experience, it somehow also is very normal, and quickly becomes very deep in a way that individual therapy simply cannot reach.
If you want to know more about where we come from and how we work, we suggest you get a copy of our book - Sex Love and The Dangers of Intimacy - A guide to Passionate Relationships when the 'honeymoon' is over"
Duffell & Løvendal, HarperCollins 2002.
10th Anniversary Edition out 14th September, Lone Arrow Press, 2012
Our approach to relationship is based on our personal experience as a couple with 25 years behind us, as well as our clinical experience of more than two decades as psychotherapists.
Our many years of studying with teachers from as versatile backgrounds as psychoanalysis, body psychotherapy, psychosynthesis, sexual grounding therapy, systemic family therapy alongside as shamanistic, indigenous and spiritual teachings have all informed us in our understanding of the nature of sex, gender and relationships. We have over the years developed a comprehensive full-spectrum model of the journey couples make through several inevitable stages, which are like gateways to increased consciousness. Going through these gateways hurts, so you need courage and attention for this path. We say this is not a soft art and not everyone has the heart for it. Easier to do Internet sex or watch TV. But if you have a roadmap for the journey it makes things clearer. Our book is a very precise map of this journey. |
In our book, we suggest that if lovers follow the beckoning of their relationship it will take them on an Odyssey beyond their wildest expectations, a perilous journey with joys and sorrows and real dangers that have to be courageously faced.
There will be numerous occasions when the relationship could get shipwrecked and love lost forever. It is not a journey for the fainthearted. The travellers who initially set out will never return. For they will be transformed by their endeavours, and their true rewards will not be comprehensible to them until this transformation has taken place. This is the real alchemy. Yet, although we all want the results, we are mere mortals, not mythical characters. And living through the transformative process can be scary, painful and bewildering. And it takes time. Years. Our book gives the participants an idea of what it looks like to navigate the deep waters where intimacy feeds and breeds. It can be read as a book of orientation and inspiration for partners who have the longing, courage and strength to engage in the amazing opportunity that a committed intimate relationship offers. |
